tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post6716857209986506159..comments2023-08-08T07:39:35.282-07:00Comments on A PROUD MOM TO MANY: Dumping my brain, to try to make it, make senseVivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08508647658368782915noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-39905131350727100432009-12-02T18:54:18.653-08:002009-12-02T18:54:18.653-08:00Time can heal many wounds, if you are removed from...Time can heal many wounds, if you are removed from the source of the pain. Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like this will ever end. As long as your husband is their father. I'm so sorry. I have no advice. Just the comment that I am happy to have 'found' you and I'm always here to vent to.Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09862459438694060262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-1618666093283662272009-12-01T11:24:30.288-08:002009-12-01T11:24:30.288-08:00and another thought...If this has been going on ar...and another thought...If this has been going on around H, maybe it could explain some of his behavior issues. I'm taking mine for an assesment next week actually.Tanyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08967412936650585698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-75156256435972526322009-12-01T11:23:06.299-08:002009-12-01T11:23:06.299-08:00I'm so sorry. I see now that your husband tal...I'm so sorry. I see now that your husband talking to them is of little use. They are very angry and I'm sure the instability of their past does have something to do with it. I hope they move on, like you said and you can begin to feel safe again.Tanyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08967412936650585698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-45465069757422791762009-11-29T14:19:51.096-08:002009-11-29T14:19:51.096-08:00Oh, I'm so sorry....thank you for sharing! You...Oh, I'm so sorry....thank you for sharing! You are strong--as well your husband. It's amazing how when children don't learn to be selfless when they are young that they can be incredibly selfish adults, and act like snotty, bratty children even as adults. However, they tend to get in much more trouble the older they get. Heartbreaking yes. However, they are responsible for their own actions. Perhaps they are acting like children, but they are just not wanting to accept responsibility for what must come to be. Each family has their own heartbreaks, and I commend you for dealing so well with yours. Children are resilient, and your young ones, with lots of love and communication from you, will recover I'm sure. But it is hard to see children hurt when you want to protect them from it. Good luck with it all in the next few weeks and months.Hillorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17024146934219324063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-69489303379101077632009-11-29T05:56:12.856-08:002009-11-29T05:56:12.856-08:00Oh wow. I'm so sorry! You can't second gue...Oh wow. I'm so sorry! You can't second guess yourselves. They are adults and are making their own choices. <br /><br />I hope things settle down for you soon.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08385300459967135657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-12377939201185815732009-11-28T20:37:09.595-08:002009-11-28T20:37:09.595-08:00I can't imagine how it must feel to have to tu...I can't imagine how it must feel to have to turn your own away. It is absolutely the right thing to do, but that can be cold comfort. Maybe in the end, it'll be the best thing for the boys as well as for you and your family at home. Maybe their oldest brother will be worthy of that worship again. At least by taking action now, you've given everyone a chance at a future together, <br /><br />As for your husband's family's feelings towards you, that sucks. But what can you do but be yourself and let the chips fall?<br />Which reminds me, your new nickname is Great White Satan. GWS for short. <br /><br />Stay strong Viv.Homemaker Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04184158557108064422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-90370170755189832242009-11-28T20:06:15.059-08:002009-11-28T20:06:15.059-08:00I am sorry for all that you and your husband are g...I am sorry for all that you and your husband are going through. I wish you all the strength that you need to get through this.kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745145497047137395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-32980519302140032572009-11-28T17:05:08.879-08:002009-11-28T17:05:08.879-08:00So sorry you are going through this! You can do t...So sorry you are going through this! You can do the "shoulda, woulda coulda" for ever and it won't change today. Just try to focus on what you can do today & in the future. You and your husband did the best for YOUR family to keep them safe, never forget that. While it doesn't help that they have put doubt in your husbands family when things are already hard really stinks. However, as time goes on eventually hopefully they will see you are a dedicated wife regardless of skin color (though I know that is very hard).<br /><br />Your husbands sons seem desperate and in turn have turned to threats and/or violence to try to get their way.<br /><br />Sometimes the best love is tough love. Both these young men (boys) are far old enough to support themselves. <br /><br />*hugs*Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04576404978307102332noreply@blogger.com