tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post4418031844101793228..comments2023-08-08T07:39:35.282-07:00Comments on A PROUD MOM TO MANY: "Hi, I met your father this morning..."Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08508647658368782915noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-69543302645988031082012-07-06T16:52:18.230-07:002012-07-06T16:52:18.230-07:00I think your nieve' and if there is one thing ...I think your nieve' and if there is one thing I have learned, never ever take an offender or his families version of his conviction on face value. Offenders all claim the sex was consentual even if it was underage and they all claim they just pissed on a bush and got an exposure charge. If I had a dime for every time I heard those descriptions I would be worth millions. Why do you think we have a never-ending tide of victims? People as your self will take that version of the fathers crime and then minimize it. Believe nothing until you read the court records, then if you can live with it? Leave the guy alone.Valigatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17120303299556237425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-91198016123560863522010-03-12T11:54:13.740-08:002010-03-12T11:54:13.740-08:00I'm with you. But I also think that it's ...I'm with you. But I also think that it's a hard place to be.And I'll Raise You 5https://www.blogger.com/profile/04807118403081664721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-17441116669820989132010-03-12T10:59:39.598-08:002010-03-12T10:59:39.598-08:00i think your kids are blessed to have a parent wit...i think your kids are blessed to have a parent with common sense and who behaves rationally. you handled this situation with grace and respect for the son who isn't responsible for his dad's actions. <br /><br />it does no good to assume things or to freak out. you can now take steps to protect your kids and teach them about dealing with adults in general. <br /><br />good job, mom.~jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12935983858645366657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-71087998690169415082010-03-11T22:21:00.807-08:002010-03-11T22:21:00.807-08:00I think he's a perv and a rapist, and it doesn...I think he's a perv and a rapist, and it doesn't matter if there was a "relationship." If the girl was 16 it couldn't be consensual, under the law.<br /><br />I feel bad for your neighbor because of how awful the situation must be for him, so I will give him a pass on lying when caught off-guard, since he came back and was honest with you. He could have claimed the old "it's a mix-up" or "false charges" BS. <br /><br />Getting the full story is just smart. What are you going to do, move now? It is so much better to have the real story (so you know his "type") and now he knows that you know. It's all out in the open, and that does add some level of accountability for your neighbor and his father. How in the world does that make you irresponsible? I think it makes you *not* a gossipy cow, which is a good thing.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08385300459967135657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-16543244937199727882010-03-11T20:01:19.819-08:002010-03-11T20:01:19.819-08:00I think you did a great job of handling it.I think you did a great job of handling it.hadjarehttp://wazika.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-2536437997485227772010-03-11T15:13:06.044-08:002010-03-11T15:13:06.044-08:00I think you handled it perfectly and me personally...I think you handled it perfectly and me personally, I would rather know that a sex offender lives next door then worry about the one down the street who hasn't been caught or I don't know about. At least I know.<br /><br />The best I can do is teach my child, not scare him or live in fear.<br /><br />This is a big deal where I'm at right now because 2 missing teenage girls have just been found and they have charged a registered sex offender with their murders.Tanyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08967412936650585698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-88772428870720190302010-03-11T09:53:50.905-08:002010-03-11T09:53:50.905-08:00If I were YOU, I would move to Kentucky... Becaus...If I were YOU, I would move to Kentucky... Because at present, it seems like you're surrounded by not only a sex offender, but a bunch of uptight gossips as well. You need to be here with us mad people.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15130773656829622579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-51808759786079111482010-03-11T08:46:53.576-08:002010-03-11T08:46:53.576-08:00Personally, I think you handled the situation very...Personally, I think you handled the situation very well. What the father did was wrong but going into hysterics over it will not help anything, it will simply create an atmosphere of secrecy and further distrust.Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09788450550251183407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-62562609895959792372010-03-10T12:18:18.742-08:002010-03-10T12:18:18.742-08:00I think you handled yourself with class and self r...I think you handled yourself with class and self respect. I think you did everything right and what you do from here should be equally as straightforward, thoughtful, reasonable and cautious.<br /><br />However, that said, your neighbor is a liar and a sneak who pretended he didn't know what you were talking about until he checked the web and knew he was caught. Regardless of your previous experiences with him, this must color all future dealings relating to this matter.<br /><br />Also, his father is a sex offender and a pedophile. There is no excuse or rationalization to change that fact. And adults CANNOT have "consensual relationships" with teenagers. In addition, even if she was an adult, he committed an ethical violation that would have cost him his job, his retirement and respect when he chose to engage in an inappropriate relationship with a client.<br /><br />Lastly, statutory rape is rape. Period.--Tumbleweedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12111453559789085470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-79008671735367327842010-03-10T10:25:27.868-08:002010-03-10T10:25:27.868-08:00No. you're not irresponsible. I think your n...No. you're not irresponsible. I think your neighbor handled himself with class....especially given the subject matter...and I know we've represented a lot of sex offenders in my line of work and to be honest, not all of them are monsters. Some of them are just really dumb and decision-ally impaired. like perhaps your neighbor's dad was 15 years ago! he wasn't RAPING children...and likely won't harm a hair on the head of YOUR children. I think it's great that YOU didn't just jump to assumptions, and that you went directly to the source....very mature, and responsible of you! Good for you Viv!<br /><br />~hl~HeatherLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09381169621382952337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-2261583080897325062010-03-10T10:05:04.312-08:002010-03-10T10:05:04.312-08:00No. I think the only thing you can do in that sit...No. I think the only thing you can do in that situation is arm yourself with the facts. You have to get as much information as you can. Doing what the other parents did is the irresponsible path.<br /><br />John Smith's dad is a scum bag, however.Homemaker Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04184158557108064422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-284807085755443963.post-64496090176451406782010-03-10T10:02:24.857-08:002010-03-10T10:02:24.857-08:00I think I am in line with you. While I would prob...I think I am in line with you. While I would probably be a little more cautious about things I also fully realize that there are sometimes a situation where a "relationship" is consensual at first until someone finds out or changes their mind. Then there is this permanent mark on a person for the rest of their life.<br /><br />Depending on what kind of "stepped out of the line" it was. In general you are not irresponsible. It is a great opportunity to teach your children about being careful as well. Signs to look for, etc.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04576404978307102332noreply@blogger.com